Empowering Affirmations & Crystals For Anxiety
November 07, 2018
Anxiety, the 400-pound-fear-monster that sits on you when you’re scared.
We all have a relationship with anxiety, whether it shows up quickly in moments of stress or is constantly present. It really is a concept that manifests in many different ways within the body, mind and spirit, depending on the person experiencing the anxiety and what may have caused it. Although we all relate to anxiety in different ways, there are core understandings and feelings we all need to help shift us from a place of fear to a place of gratitude. Gratitude is fear’s worst enemy. The two cannot co-exist.
Here are a few affirmations I always keep tucked up my sleeve. They are great for re-affirming my good feelings and even better for helping me out of the scary feelings.
“Everything is as it should be.”
Peace + Protection + Sleep
From person to person, we see and feel anxiety in a different light. So, it can be difficult to recognize sometimes, even when it’s running around, lighting fires within our very selves.
Just being aware of the emotions I am experiencing and being understanding of myself in anxious moments has made the biggest difference for me on my mental health path. I’ve learned that I am the only person who can truly help myself when I feel fear and I’ve also learned that I always have a choice in the face of fear: I can stay or I can run.
I ran for a really long time and I still do sometimes but staying and breathing and feeling… that’s where the money’s at. And just saying the words everything is just as it should be sends the message to my entire being that I accept the present moment and I am here, now, fully. In this space, when I feel these words, I am able to return to myself and the anxiety melts away.
Amethyst is an amazing crystal for mental health in general. It gives off an energy that feels comforting and calming so it’s a common crystal for folks looking so soothe any kind of tension in the mind and body. It also has a protective energy that promotes feelings of safety and grounding. Because of this, I like to decorate my home with these beauties. I have one on my bedside table, my dresser, my living room shelf… they’re pretty much everywhere. I love that I can look at these vibrant amethyst crystals as I am moving throughout my home and be reminded of the intentions I associate with them.
“I am safe.”
Love + Compassion + Wholeheartedness
My first vivid memory of feeling anxious was when I was around 7 or 8 years old. My mom let me know that she would be spending more time at home with me and my younger sisters since her work schedule would be switch from weekdays to weekends. I immediately felt crushing anxiety because I really did not want to spend any more time with my mom.
She was emotionally and physically abusive, which I wasn’t aware of at the time, so I was really confused about why I felt so much fear and discomfort in this moment. I mean, 7-year-olds are supposed to like their moms, right? They’re supposed to feel good and loved and safe around them- but I certainly didn’t. It felt like I was doing something wrong by not wanting to spend time with her and like it was an ungrateful response for me to have. It felt like I was misbehaving, even though I hadn’t done anything wrong. Then, I felt even more anxiety because I knew she expected me to be excited and that I would have to force the best positive reaction I could.
In this moment, the anxiety I felt came from an obligation fulfill silent agreements I had made with my mother, as well as the fear of being around her. Healing from this mother-wound… I have no words. I’m still just at the beginning. But I will say this: check in with your inner child in times of anxiety. We all have childhood traumas to some degree and if these traumas are unresolved, they will continue to show up in our adult lives.
I’ve started a practice of sitting with the anxiety and I follow it to childhood-conditioning. The only way out is through, right? Let me tell you, this works! I even have a name for my inner child and I speak to her when I feel scared and I remind her that she’s safe. Facing your anxiety isn't easy- most things worth doing aren't. But the healing is massive and its real, and it gets easier with practice, I promise.
When it comes to connecting with my inner child, my reflex is to reach for rose quartz. I have a couple of polished crystals that I love to hold in my hands while I sleep and meditate. I’ll also carry a rose quartz crystal with me in my pocket or purse whenever I feel I could use some extra loving energy or a reminder to be kinder to myself.
“Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”
Clarity + Healing + Manifestation
Because I’ve felt anxiety most of my life, I’ve learned how to mask it really well. In an odd way, I feel like it has learned to mask me too. When I feel anxious, I start to shut down. On the outside, I may look disinterested, disengaged or even happy if I feel like I need to do so. But on the inside, it’s chaos. Alarms. Sirens. My mind goes faster than I can keep up with and it just plays out fear-based past and possible scenarios, over and over again. Sometimes I just stay frozen in my thoughts for a while, if the anxiety is really strong, until I can come out of it.
No matter what situation or emotions I am sitting with, the one true antidote to fear I come to again and again is gratitude. There’s just nothing better than a simple thank you to make me feel grounded and whole. My favorite way to use this affirmation is to breathe it.
If I want to amplify this affirmation, I pair it with clear quartz. Clear quartz contributes to our daily lives in so many ways. It’s used in our tech devices and to keep our watches ticking. Because it is so essential in our society, it’s commonly thought of as the essential crystal for anything and anyone.
This is the breath ritual I go to when I want to let go of my anxiety and go into a flow state:
You can do this standing, sitting or lying down.
1. Grab one crystal for each hand. Go for some clear quartz or any other crystal you feel drawn to.
2. Inhale into the belly as you think “thank”, then continue your inhale into your chest as you think “you”.
3. Pause for a moment at the top of your inhale.
4. Matching your exhale to the length of your inhale, think “thank you”.
5. Pause at the end of your exhale.
6. Repeat for as long as this feels good in your body.
Anxiety isn’t fair. It gets in the way of the things we want to accomplish and overwhelms our entire being. However, we don’t have to be victims to it. We are in control of how we respond to our anxiety. Having a “toolbox” full of whatever it is that brings you back to yourself when fear takes over makes a huge difference. Put in some of your favorite affirmations, crystals, comforting recipes, music playlists and anything else that will inspire gratitude. You can even share the contents of this “toolbox” with your partner or loved one so that they can be better equipped to help you as well.
Sending you all my love,
Jenn Fiallos lives, loves, creates, and inspires under the sun-filled skies of San Diego, California. Her deep passion for holistic healing, empowering the feminine, yoga and crystals are the driving forces behind Lady Liberata
, her shop offering rare crystals and beautifully crafted custom mala beads. She frequently hosts local Goddess Circles and workshops, which offer a safe space for all to learn, share, heal and embrace their true selves. Follow her on Insta for more information and daily doses of the incredible!